Why Do We Argue? (Part 2: the Peace Cycle)
Consider what you know to be true. Think about the character of your partner, how you felt about them when you first met. Consider what their intentions might have been, that they may not have been intentionally trying to hurt you. Envision the situation from their point of view.
Why Do We Argue? (Part 1: the Pain Cycle)
This a typical ‘pursuer-distancer’ dance where one partner pursues (Martha) hoping for connection, but her partner (Jim) distances himself. Why? The way this couple is interacting creates a circular dance…