What If the Problem Isn’t What You’re Saying—But How You’re Listening?

When listening changes, everything changes—making it easier to understand each other and find common ground.

One of the most important aspects of every marriage is clear communication. While there is verbal and non-verbal communication in all relationships, I’m referring specifically to verbal communication. Both spouses are responsible for how they communicate in their marriage. The husband can control only how he communicates, and the wife can control only how she communicates. Let’s face it, trying to control the way your spouse communicates is futile – taking responsibility for the way you communicate will improve your side of the communication equation and, hopefully, will help your spouse follow suit.