Summer with Purpose: Finding Balance and Building Emotional Strength in Kids
Summer often arrives with a mix of excitement and overwhelm for parents. The school year
ends, routines loosen, and suddenly the house is filled with more noise, energy, and questions of
“What are we doing today?” While it’s easy to fill every moment with activities, camps, and
trips, summer is actually a golden opportunity to slow down—and grow something even more
important than academics: your child’s emotional well-being.
Balance Is Key
Summer doesn’t have to be a free-for-all or a productivity contest. The healthiest approach is
balance: a little fun, a little rest, a little learning, and a lot of connection. Kids thrive with
structure, but they also need unstructured time to explore, dream, and just be.
In the absence of school pressures, children have space to develop skills that often get
overlooked during the year—like emotional regulation, problem-solving, and resilience.
The Power of the Slow Down
When things slow down, parents can tune in to what’s going on below the surface. How is your
child feeling lately? Are they managing frustrations well? Do they know how to name their
emotions? Use these slower days to help them develop emotional vocabulary. Instead of brushing
off a tantrum or meltdown, try saying:
“It seems like you’re feeling frustrated—do you want to talk about it?”
These small, repeated interactions help children build self-awareness and trust.
Real-Life Learning Beyond the Classroom
Not all learning comes from books. During summer, kids can learn to:
Problem-solve during sibling disagreements
Negotiate roles in group play
Try new activities and face fears
Reflect on their actions and feelings
These are the roots of social-emotional learning—and they grow strongest in real-world, low-
pressure environments.
Support Self-Esteem Through Presence and Praise
One of the greatest gifts parents can offer during summer is attentiveness. Celebrate effort,
curiosity, kindness, and growth—not just accomplishments. Help them set small goals, reflect on
experiences, and express themselves.
By simply being present, validating feelings, and engaging in activities together, you’re helping
build a child’s sense of self-worth.
A Mindful Summer Is a Meaningful One
This summer, don’t feel pressured to over-schedule or entertain every hour. Aim for a rhythm
that includes:
Time outdoors
Creative play
Quiet moments
Family rituals
Conversations about emotions and experiences
These are the moments that matter. They’re not only enriching for children—but also deeply
connecting for families.
Erica Realpe, MA, LMFT
Helping individuals, couples, and families heal and create better relationships. Erica is available in Midland Park and telehealth. Sessions are available in English and Spanish.
