Did You Know We Have Perpetual Problems in Marriage?
The truth is, when I fly alone, I do it my way, and there are no problems. When my wife flies alone, she does it her way, and there are no problems. But when we fly together?
Welcome to marriage and the world of ‘perpetual problems.’”
Perpetual problems are differences in habits, preferences, and values that challenge every married couple. They aren’t just little quirks — they’re deeply rooted parts of who we are. And the key is not to “win” or “fix” these problems, but to manage them with understanding and compassion.
When two people come from different backgrounds, with different experiences and emotional histories, they will inevitably see the world — and how to live in it — differently. One may see spending as a sign of love and joy, while the other sees saving as a way to protect and provide. Neither is wrong.
When It’s Clear on Paper: A Game-Changing Tool for Couples
Each person completes the assessment individually. Then, they meet with a certified facilitator who walks them through the results—highlighting areas of alignment, difference, and misunderstanding. What makes this tool so effective is that it gives couples something objective to review together. It’s no longer just one person’s perspective—it’s all laid out clearly, in black and white
Back to the Garden: God’s Design for Marriage Part 2
A marriage weighed down by hurtful words and deeds is like the seed gobbled up by the birds, never having a chance to germinate and bear fruit. When emotional hurt and pain dominate a marriage, the joys of marriage never see the light of day. What are these words and behaviors that are so destructive? What are these 'love busters' that are so harmful to a marriage?
Back to the Garden: God’s Design for Marriage
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Marriage, as designed by God, was meant to be a relationship of deep connection, love, and fruitfulness. Adam and Eve’s union in the Garden of Eden was pure and unburdened—free from shame, conflict, and struggle. Yet, after their disobedience, the reality of marriage changed. No longer effortless, it required patience, faith, and intentional effort.
Like the Parable of the Sower, a thriving marriage depends on the soil in which it is planted. Some relationships struggle under the weight of misunderstandings and neglect, while others flourish through love, faith, and perseverance. Even in a fallen world, God’s design for marriage remains, offering couples the opportunity to cultivate a strong, fruitful bond rooted in His wisdom.
When It’s in Black and White: A Powerful Tool for Couples
Each person completes the assessment individually. Then, they meet with a certified facilitator who walks them through the results—highlighting areas of alignment, difference, and misunderstanding. What makes this tool so effective is that it gives couples something objective to review together. It’s no longer just one person’s perspective—it’s all laid out clearly, in black and white.